I like to ask the girl before I do more complex moves, "Do you trust me?" I need her to trust me or I can't pick her up, swing her around, eat her pussy while we're standing up. I always tell the girls I'm indestructible, you can't hurt me. Being strong, I can do the boy-girl style positions and strap-on scenes. And I won't let her just lie there and look pretty and not work. My overwhelming experience has been that the girls like working with me. We'd had clashes about choices I've made to be more appropriate to porn, but she never cared about the sex. When I lost 40 pounds, she didn't even notice. I'm way hotter than when I got in it, but my wife is into a nerdy, butchy lesbian. In porn, I just started getting paid for it and doing it on camera instead of wherever. If you date me long-term, you have to enjoy the fact that I fuck like that. I got into porn two months after we got married. We started dating in college and got married in 2008 because it was legal in California. My wife is my cameraperson for a lot of my projects, and she is one of my editors, and she built my website.
Half my time now is producing and directing, and half is performing.
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I told people that if they gave me a chance, I wouldn't disappoint them, and I show up on time, I do a great scene, I'm cool to crew, and one of the things they know about me is if they call me and they put me with a girl who doesn't know how to do a scene that I'll make it good. I approached every agent in porn and every one of them said, "No, maybe if you started doing boy-girl or grew your hair out." Their advice was to just be like everybody else. I don't look like what they're used to selling. But when I first got in, everybody was like, "No," because I don't look like a porn star. I've definitely been more accepted by mainstream porn than queer porn. When I was talking to the director, he was just like, "No way, no one will believe it." So it got switched to the classic porno plot of walking in on my roommate masturbating and I thought I would join in. The scene was supposed to be that it was my first time with a girl. But I wasn't embarrassed about the sex at all. I was a recovering goth and a super-pale girl and that was a thing that mattered to me, it was a part of who I was. On the day of the shoot, I went to the house where the shoot was, and there were all these blonde tan girls with fake boobs, and they took one look at me and were like, "Oh my god, you need to get a spray tan." I had never had a spray tan in my life. "Do you have any Dolce or Gucci?" She looked like Barbie, and I had a bit of baby fat - butchy lesbian. I laid out what I thought was all my sexy underwear, and she goes, "No, baby, like sexy underwear." Then she decided she was going to dress me. came to my house and she asked me to lay out all my sexy underwear. I didn't know what I was doing but I like sex. I booked some work off Craigslist for girl-girl scene. I had been a domme in college a little bit, so I was familiar with sex work. It was definitely a conscious decision to put my time and resources into becoming a porn product. I started selling, and then I started directing porn for a couple of companies. I realized I could make my own porn and sell it. Then I started taking some porn work on the side and I loved it. I worked on one porn shoot and was like, Oh, I could do this. I did some mainstream indies, but my main gig was commercials. I went to film school at USC and I was working as an assistant director. I am a lesbian. This is my eighth year doing porn. I've never touched a penis in my entire life. Here, she talks about what it's like to work with straight female performers, how she changed her look to conform to mainstream porn standards, and how she wants her porn to appeal to both women and men.
Lily Cade, 30, is one of the few performers who is a lesbian in real life and works in so-called "girl-on-girl" mainstream porn.